Here we go again, another Unemployed Graduate theory coming your way! Today we are talking about Low Expectations and High Standards.
Applications of the theory: Any event that creates a specific expectation; interviews, exams, projects, tests, games etc.
What you have to do: Think, reflect and judge if this theory applies to you. Also grab some flu medicine cause this post is gonna be sick (Got to work on the banter, also it’s 1am and I’m slightly tired).
I have often written the words: “have low expectations and high standards” and a friend of mine pointed it out that I have never explained what it means. Therefore, I’m going to put my unemployed thinking cap on (tinfoil hat) and try to explain why low standards and high expectations are so very important.
Hard Work and Expectations
The first concept that needs to be understood is that the amount of work you put in is directly proportional to your expectations. This makes logical sense; if you work really hard your expectations of the outcome are going to be higher.
Example: if you study really hard for an exam, you probably will not expect an ‘F or D’.
How to Lower Expectations
Now, you need to lower your expectations. And you do that by simply acknowledging the things that you cannot control.
In every situation there are things we cannot control. In exams, the examiner might be in a bad mood when grading your test. The job interview that you really prepared for goes to someone ‘who fits the company better’. By accepting this, you are creating a sort of realism of the outcomes that can take place.
By acknowledging the infinite ways that you cannot control, can lower you expectations to a healthy level. Read on for the unhealthy level of low expectations.
One quick word about lowing expectations: accepting the things you cannot control everything is good, but don’t do it excessively to the point in which you lower your confidence.
We all have those friends that say ‘I know nothing’ just before an exam and then walk out with the great grade. Or those people that call defeat even before the game ends. Now, however you manage to lower your expectations is up to you, but if you take this route you can risk believing yourself and actually feeling that you are not good enough.
My brother is the champion at this. If we had to follow his word, he would have never even passed the first year of med school, but actually he graduated summa cum laude with special merit (that means graduating with 116 out of 110 in the Italian university system).
Take ownership of your performance.
Your standards are how you value your work.
Did you do everything in your power to succeed? Did you use your time in the best way to prepare? Did you soldier on even when you really wanted to procrastinate?
A company can find someone they think fits the position better than you, but if you feel that you said everything to have a great interview; then that is having high standards. If your project is the very best you could have done, then you should be proud of that.
No matter how you performed, you have to accept it. If it was below what you deem acceptable, then reflect and learn what you can do better. On the other had, if you are please with your performance, then relax and be proud.
Every single time I do something, I have high standards in saying ‘I did my best, I wouldn’t change a thing’. I am able to say that because of the initial work I put in to prepare, but I lower my standards by saying:
I did my best, I wouldn’t change a thing, let’s just hope that they see it that way too
And I leave it at that.
If you like this theory, please comment and like it. Im curious to see what you think. If you know someone that dangerously lowers their expectations to the point of hurting their confidence, share this article with them.